How to be a Patient Parent
Patience is something that you are not born with but something that you practice to be perfect at. Whether you child is of pre-school age or in university, every parent will at some time or other lose his or her patience and get frustrated or angry. If patience is practiced, it can develop over time just as we develop a habit. Read on for some great tips to be a much more patient parent.
Count to Ten
As childish as it sounds, this method really does help. The moment you feel your anger starting to boil or frustration starting to set in, stop and count to 10 slowly (you can do this in your mind). You will notice that most of the initial anger you felt would have subsided by now and a more logical you would have emerged. Sometimes, you may want to count to 10 loudly, giving your children a signal to stop and run J
As you count to 10, take deep breaths. With every breath, you will feel the frustration leave you.
One of the most effective things you can do not to react angrily in a situation is to walk away – for a few minutes. It’s often a good idea to take a break from the situation, calm yourself down, give your child a chance to calm down, plan out what you are going to say and then return. The planning what to say part is very important because often we end up saying things that may be a bit too harsh when we are angry. Another advantage of being the calm one is to prevent your pre school child from getting under your skin.
One thing that has helped me a lot when I almost lose it is to remember that kids are just that; kids. If they were adults they would probably react to situations differently. If you always remember that they are still learning things and are not perfect, you will automatically become a much calmer person because your job is to teach correct behavior, not get angry to it. If you keep telling yourself that you are the teacher and you have to be patient, you will be. Try not to expect miracles overnight. Even we adults sometimes take more than a try to get something right.
This is something I can swear by. Something you should do before or after a frustrating situation comes up is to regularly practice visualization. Visualize how you want to react when your child does something that gets you mad. Go into great detail as to how you will react, what you will say, how you will look and how your child will respond. Slowly but surely, all that you have visualized will come true.
Chill and Love
Sometimes, you need to just take a step back and be happy with all the family you have around you and just have a good laugh. Life is too short….so just smile and treat all your children with the number one medicine that has never failed – love and more love. When you want to react to anger, just love instead. Want to react to frustration – just love instead. When you give out all that love, it is bound to come back to you.